This post begins exactly were the last one left off. It was about seven o’clock in the morning and I believe the post ended with this line, “Now, off to clean up the lipstick Shepherd just used to paint the carpet and himself! No joke – Julia is going to love this one”! As I was finishing things up, I looked over to see Shepherd at my side, maroon lipstick all over his hands, giving his uh-oh uh-oh speech with an inquisitive “how in the world did this happen” expression on his face. Since you can’t find lipstick at a BassPro Shop, I knew this was a job for Julia. I walked back to the bedroom to wake Julia up for an amazing morning. Her day began with a blurred view of my face and the muffled sound of my voice saying, “Babe, how do you get lipstick out of carpet? And by the way, happy six-year anniversary”! Yep, that is how far we have come in six years! No longer are anniversary mornings beginning with a good sleep-in, followed up with breakfast in bed and a peaceful cup of coffee. It is now a 6:30 am wake up call from a two-year old down the hall, a uh-oh, and lipstick in the carpet that jump starts the anniversary. The battle to celebrate six amazing years of marriage was officially a go!
Valentine’s Day and our anniversary day are big productions in the Faught marriage. These days are usually celebrated by a weekend getaway, fancy dinner, or a crazy fun date night. This is just one way we try to keep each other and our marriage first. After six years, really after having two young children, these special days have become something we desperately have to fight for to make good on. We have to fight our children, stress, sickness, and ourselves to happily celebrate these special days.
Our day began with no rest or relaxation. We jumped right into cleaning permanent lipstick out of the living room carpet. We then continued to chase around, for some unknown reason, an extra ornery Shepherd through the house. We had a lovely non-peaceful breakfast with scrambled eggs, toast, sausage, and tears being thrown on the floor. Shortly after breakfast, the decision was made to attend the annual Siloam Springs Dogwood Festival. So, we have a dirty house, a toddler on the loose, a crying newborn, and a mission to head out the door in less than an hour. Of course, this creates an opportunity for an explosive marital conversation on who is going to do what and how we are going to get out the door with a clean house, babies packed, and diaper bags in tow. We then leave for the Festival and return for naps. Three hours later, Shepherd wakes up from his nap with a fever (this explains his extra craziness). Not only does he wake up with a slight fever, but we have family pictures to attend with Julia’s family that includes 8 children, 6 out of the 8 being 2 years old or younger. There is one word to describe family pictures with 8 young children and the word is INSANITY.
So, here we are after a long stressful day wondering if we will even celebrate our big day. Our plans for using family for babysitting are useless, since you can’t have a sick toddler around everyone else’s kids. Our anniversary date night out on the town was doomed and it looked like we would be regulated to a big glass of wine and an early arrival to a good night sleep. Thankfully, Julia had a backup plan and an amazing anniversary present for me. Since I am extremely paranoid that life and children will come before our marriage, Julia gave me eight envelopes filled with pre-designed date nights from The Great Date Experience, provided by Married Life Online (I highly recommend checking the website out, and more to come on this in the near future). What an amazing idea and relief to a paranoid husband! We ended up putting the boys down early and using one of the envelope date nights for a home date to celebrate six years. It turned out to be one of the best dates we have enjoyed in recent memory.
A wise mentor once told me that marriage gets hard when you have multiple kids and each spouse is stressed from the events of the day. It is at these times that your marriage is truly put to the test. So many times throughout the day Julia and I said to each other, “We are not going to let this lipstick bother us!” Wether it was lipstick in the carpet, food on the floor, a tense conversation about family duties, sick kids, or family pictures, we were going to fight for our anniversary and marriage. Thankfully, by the grace of God, we conquered that battle and we have hope to win the war!